Spiritual Guidance Blog by Sedona Healer Cynthia Tierra
Spiritual Guidance posted by Sedona Healer and Sedona Reiki Master Teacher, Cynthia Tierra of Healing From The Heart in Sedona Arizona about creating better communication.
Three Words To Eliminate From Your Life August 19, 2018
If you want to communicate better and be happier, there are three words to eliminate from your life. You may be thinking I’m going to throw three cuss words at you and tell you not to use them. This is not about swearing. It’s about your well being. The three words to eliminate from your vocabulary seem benign enough. They are; should; can’t and why.
First there is should. How many times have you found yourself saying, “I should have…” Fill in the blank. When you use the “s” word and I don’t mean you know what, you’re placing guilt on yourself and guilt is something to eliminate from your emotional choice options. All guilt does is make you feel bad because you did or didn’t do something. Feeling guilty will never change what happened. Whatever you’re feeling guilty about, it’s over and your guilt needs to be over along with it. Instead of saying “I should have…” ask yourself what you learned or have the potential to learn from the experience and turn it into a lesson about making decisions you are happy with.
Next, there is can’t. Can’t is an extremely limiting word. Instead of telling yourself you can’t do something, try another way of looking at the situation. All things are possible. Some are just less probable. Because I am not skilled in something, or afraid to try it, doesn’t mean I can’t do it. Just like The Little Engine That Could, when I think I can, and put in the necessary time, effort or whatever else is needed, in other words, I accept the part I will play in the creation, I can. The key is; I may not choose to do something. Rather than telling yourself “I can’t…” Tell yourself, “I freely choose not to …”
Finally, there is why. How much time do we humans spend asking why something happened? Is it necessary to understand why, or is it more important to accept whatever happened, learn from it and move on? Everything either happens for a reason or there is no reason and order behind life. If you choose to see life as a reasonable process, you don’t always need to understand why. Life is about trusting in an orderly creative power far greater than you or I as individuals, yet we collectively are part of it and it is part each of us. If you trust in the process of life, then understanding why something did or didn’t happen isn’t a necessity. Understanding is just a bonus to help you learn and grow.
So the next time you catch yourself using one of these three words treat it as if you are uttering an obscenity. Choose to communicate better. Replace” I should…” with “I learned…” or “I can learn…” Replace “I can’t…” with “I freely choose not to…” and replace “why?” with “I trust in the process of life
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Cynthia Tierra – Sedona Healer and Sedona Reiki Master Teacher, works with the whole person to eliminate pain, illness, and stress by identifying and releasing the underlying causes. She offers spiritual healing and intuitive reading.
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